The Importance of Being Patient

​In the spirit of TBT's here's a throwback from one of my visits to Lagos about a month ago. Lagos is such an interesting place 👀. Every time I decide I'm ready to make the move from Abuja, something different happens and confirms that I'm just not ready to leave the comfort of the calm and organized city I'm used to (esp. not for Lagos)😔.


pa.tience {'pāSHəns}

NOUN The capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.

If there's one thing Lagos has taught me, it's the importance of being patient - How else can you sit through traffic for a minimum of 3 hours a day as part of your regular routine? That and the acceptance of subpar service and general incompetence the workforce in Nigeria displays (not just in lagos) which is a known way of life. Keep in mind that acceptance of this way of life does not mean one has to conform, it just means that given the environment, one has to adapt and act accordingly. So for example, when your uber driver who is positioned 7 minutes away calls you for the third time, 25 mins after he should have arrived, you realize that it's not his fault and refrain from scolding him. Even if you're now running behind schedule and it affects your business, YOU JUST HAVE TO MANAGE.

Truth is dealing with workers and service providers is only one of the many areas where patience is required. Think about your relationship with friends, family and even God.

As 2016 came to an end, I looked back at some of the highlights and lowlights of the year. The goals I successfully achieved like finishing my master's degree and others I haven't quite gotten to like learning how to make at least three Nigerian soups. I also acknowledged those goals which were a little more serious than cooking, which I prayed about tirelessly and still did not achieve. This brings me to patience with God. At the time, I definitely thought I was being ignored but because I had faith that He would always be there for me, I believed that something better than what I had planned for myself was on its way. More than anything, 2016 was a year of spiritual, physical and emotional growth. I hope you have witnessed a lot of the same type of growth and can look back at 2016 without regrets. If you do have regrets, my advice is that you extract the lessons and leave whatever negative aspects of it you're still holding on to. Free yourself and give room to more positive experiences in your life.

Okay! Enough of the life lessons. I hope you enjoy the images as much as we enjoyed creating them. ​

Photo credit 📸: IG @obinnaudora

Location - Lekki, Lagos

Outfit Details

Shoes: Schutz

Outfit: Custom Made in Nigeria (Designed by me)

Sunglasses: Found in Vintage Store in Florence


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