Hi my loves and welcome back to the ATTICSPHERE.
As you all know by now, I got engaged to my long term & long distance boyfriend (Obi) about 6 weeks ago. I wrote several posts about the actual proposal on the blog so if you missed it you can catchup on them by starting HERE. Like the title of today's post suggests, I'll be writing about some of the things I've noticed that are different since we took the next big step in our relationship and told our closest friends and family that we're getting married.
These are my top 5 😋
1. YOUR WEDDING BECOMES ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS PEOPLE ASK YOU ABOUT - from the first day, like hours after we got engaged, our friends were already asking 'so when is the wedding?'. Lool I couldn't have been more confused. TBH, I STILL DON'T KNOW WHEN THE WEDDING IS. If it could be tomorrow, I'd be down for that, but the thought of planning gives me anxiety, so I'm just kinda letting time pass and hoping that things come together slowly.
2. PINTEREST BECOMES BAE - I've had pinterest for a while now and at first I thought it was overrated. To be fair the first time I really saw the use was when I was looking for branding ideas for a friend's business and I was overwhelmed with all the creativity. But now that I actually have a wedding to plan and I don't have any ideas on what I want it to be like, Pinterest has been a great resource!
3. YOU VOW TO BE IN THE KITCHEN MORE - This one has been a struggle for me. I'm a really really good cook, my friends and boyfriend will confirm this. Thing is I don't particularly enjoy COOKING ALL THE TIME. Somehow I thought getting engaged would ginger me to get in the kitchen more frequently, but shocker, it hasn't. This is probably a good thing because at the end of the day, I'm just being myself.
4. YOU TRIP ON HOW TO ADDRESS HIM (at least for the first couple months) - Thing is I really don’t like the word FIANCE. So, most times I still call him my boyfriend. I wouldn't advice this if your partner takes it personally.
5. YOU NOW HAVE A NEW FAMILY - This should be a no brainer but you'd be surprised how often it's not the case. I'm super grateful and thankful to God because in our case the initial family introduction went really well. Every one had a good time and got along perfectly. Since then I’ve gotten messages sent in his family whatsapp group👀 (that says a lot). Whether or not I read the messages, its nice to know that his parents are thinking of me.
BONUS** - PEOPLE OFFER UNSOLICITED ADVICE
Nigerians are generally very forward and have no filter, so they're never shy to just say how they feel about things that may or may not concern them. I had a coworker give me advice on things from wedding planning, managing both families expectations and even sex. It was a little awkward but I got through it and even took some notes😂. My advice for this one is to just smile, say thank you and keep it moving.
That's it! :) just a quick roundup of my thoughts. On a different note, I'd like to use this opportunity to say a big congratulations to some other young nigerian blogger babes who recently got engaged! Dupe , Tuke , and Wunmi.